As Shakespeare said that “The course of true love never did run smooth”, So is the breakup! We have all been passed down through this phase. Breakups are real heart breaks and challenging too for both individuals. When we are deeply in love we feel fine. We even neglect what we do not like but as the time grows misunderstanding grows and this frustration often lets us stay alone. 

Once this feeling overcomes our heart, we take this challenging decision. While some relationships break due to misunderstanding  and some due to infidelity. But there can be thousands of reasons for breaking up. 

If you are just like many others who went through this phase then one thing is more important to remember is that “Stop Blaming Yourself, Start Loving Yourself”. We all know that breakups hurt mentally and physically. However, when it comes to unloving that person, it becomes really difficult as you have built so many memories together.Today, in this blog post we will find some ways through which you can deal with breakup and move on in life with positivity.

10 tips to bounce back stronger from a Bad Breakup

Grief as long as you wanted

Breaking up with your partner can sometimes feel like losing a family member. Grieving about a breakup is perfectly normal and one should grieve about it too. The loss of relationship is correlated with a decrease in dopamine, the neurotransmitter which is involved in the brain’s reward system. At this phase your friends can be a huge support and you should talk your heart out with them when you feel alone and even feel depressed.

Setting up boundaries don’t equal bitterness

Keeping boundaries may be perceived as cruelty by a former partner. It will become difficult to respect your own feelings and enough to set them. But by setting proper boundaries will pay dividends in your ability to bounce back. Boundaries may include limited contact, physical distance and even rules of engagement. These rules are especially crucial for the people who are undergoing divorce or who have children.

You can also set clear expectations in which you will not be yelled or disrespected. Feeling defensive during these discussions is normal while some people will appreciate scheduled times and expectations.If your ex won’t respect your boundaries then it is the best way to maintain silence.

Give more time to your family and friends

Spending more time with your family and friends is important. As it gives time to heal from heartbreak. Speaking your heart out will only lessen your burden. This will give you time to heal. One of the studies also found that social interactions will protect you against the feelings of depression and loneliness. It’s crucial to also note that letting your friends support you through this tough phase will let you become stronger and your heart will feel lighter too.

So, spend more time with your family and friends!

Letters to your EX

As one of the famous authors Nikita Singh has written, “We were feeling all of these emotions that no one else knew”. The thing is that when you are in a relationship you feel butterflies in your stomach and you just feel happy-go lucky, But when you get separated from each other it feels like the whole world has fallen down. Many psychologists have suggested writing out your feelings in letters to your ex.This exercise will help you lessen your burden. Write as many letters as you want to write but don’t send it. This process will help you in healing and your heart will feel much lighter.

It's more like putting your feelings and thoughts on paper and writing about it  

Grow from it 

Patience is required as your growth is not apparent until you will see in a rearview mirror. This is the time which can actually become very enjoyable and productive too. Time which can actually become productive and enjoyable during this time. Journaling is a strong power tool for discovery. 

Find a New Hobby

It has become crucial to find a new hobby and work on it. You can reconnect with your old hobbies like sketching,writing, and many more. Whatever you like, you can start on it. Reconnecting with old hobbies will let your sinking heart become stronger and better and you can enjoy your own time to heal too. This reconnecting will help you fall in love with yourself which is also known as “Self-Love”.

Kindness is never old

Doing something kind will never go out of the way. Sometimes when it will become helpful to get out of your own head and focus on something new and distract your mind too. Research has suggested that distraction was an effective post-breakup tactic especially for boosting positive emotions.  

Self Love is all you need

Even if you are experiencing a heartbreak because your relationship has ended or even if you’ve lost someone you love, make sure to take care of your mind and body. Give your best, get enough sleep, eat healthy, practice yoga and stay as active as you can. It will let you stay optimistic and light about it. So don’t forget to love yourself and stop blaming yourself for everything that has happened because it happens from both sides not from one side.

Make meaning for breakup

If possible then try to make meaning of the relationship ending or just accept that there is no meaning to and why it ended. Over time you can realize that the end of your relationship was ultimately in your best interest. Therefore, it is possible that you may not be able to find any positivity in the relationship ending. Just keep moving forward, don’t look back.

Say no to Alcohol 

Alcohol is not a solution to anything. Most people think that drinking alcohol will resolve their broken heart but it’s not true as it will only degrade your health. Because when you drink too much alcohol it will start controlling your brain which will be worse for all the organs of your body.

Looking for a New Hope

Healing a broken heart is never easy as it takes time, patience and self care. Start by allowing yourself to feel your emotions and grief as long as you want. Just make your heart lighter as much as you can. After that give yourself time and give your family and friends new hope. Moreover, you can also follow your heart out and you can start journaling about the things. So,“Don’t lose hope,it’s just a phase,this shall pass”.