Improve Your Kissing Skills to Spice Up Your Romantic Life

Kissing is the most simple but intimate way to display love or affection to your romantic partner. Doing it well not only feels romantic but also keeps the spark alive. A study done in 2009 suggested that kissing may reduce one's stress level. But the problem is most people learn it from movies and social media that results in having wrong notions about it. In this guide, we will dispel all the misunderstandings readers have regarding kissing and will try to make them a better kisser.

What is the Best Way to Kiss?

No one can tell you the best way to kiss since everyone is different in the sense of tastes and sensibilities. A good kiss, however, is a combination of a number of necessary things. The first thing is to make sure that your lips are moisturized and soft, dry and chapped lips may make both partners uncomfortable. The point is to embrace non-aggressiveness and responsiveness to your partner and her/his pace, pressure levels. First move with soft and gentle touches instead of violent movements. Observing the body language of your partner, respond. A good kiss must be natural and without any coercion or automation.

Change by varying your method. For this,  every now and then, you need to bring variety in your intensity, angle, or speed. To make the moment tender, use your hands to caress your partner on her face, neck, or hair. And most importantly, be present and in the moment as opposed to the overthinking of every move.

What Makes a Kiss Unforgettable: -

The definition of an unforgettable kiss can differ from person to person, but certain aspects of it are universal.

1. Moment

It depends on the time or the moment when one kisses to make or break a good kiss. The ideal kiss is usually unanticipated when both of you are engaged in a chat or some silent time together. Then there are the times when you just anticipate, and both of you lean forward at the same time, it is magic. It is not good to impose a kiss when you are not feeling the right time. The most perfect kisses occur when the couples are open-minded and emotionally ready.

2. Location

The point of kissing is important. It is a kiss on a gorgeous rooftop on starlight, or a quiet beach at sunset, or in the coziness of your home after a romantic dinner that will make different atmospheres. The place must be relaxed and not too open, so you are both able to be fully engaged and to not fear any distraction or being judged by people around you. Kisses that are made in familiar, intimate settings are usually the most memorable.

3. Occasion

Naturally, special events as anniversaries, birthdays, or even the first kiss have more emotional overtones. Nevertheless, the most memorable kisses are in the most regular events such as an unexpected kiss at breakfast or a kiss at a dance in the kitchen. Such surprises of kisses are truer and more sincere.

4. Attraction

Emotional and physical attractiveness makes a kiss more intense. The kiss has a new meaning when you are really attracted to your partner not only physically but also emotionally and mentally. This relationship renders this whole experience more fulfilling and successful.

5. Mood

Your emotional moods, as both, play a huge role in the kiss. A kiss on the times of weakness, happiness, or intense intimacy is more serious than a simple peck. When you are both relaxed and happy and you are focused on each other then the kiss would become more meaningful and unforgettable.

Common Mistakes That People Make While Kissing: - 

It is equally important as knowing what to do, knowing what to avoid. The following are the typical kissing mistakes that may be used to spoil the moment:

1. Bad Hygiene

You are on a date, and as you are about to place your mouth near the mouth of your partner, you suddenly get the smell of strong armpit or bad breath that makes you violate. How would it make you feel? Naturally, it would ruin all your love-making. Wash your teeth always, take mouthwash, and get yourself clean before making love. The breath of freshness is an essential requirement of pleasant kissing.

2. Speeding Things Up

Rushing in to give an intense kiss is one of the greatest mistakes. Most individuals, influenced by scenes in movies attempt to kiss forcefully in the beginning. Start with a mild intensity and allow the intensity to develop. Fast and short kisses are not very pleasant and they may take your partner by surprise. A moment should build itself, growing in intensity, but you need to be comfortable with each other.

3. Using Too Much Tongue

The overuse of tongue is a frequent error that results in uncomfortable kissing. You must use your tongue in a subtle and tactical manner rather than push it down the mouth of your partner. Light movement of the tongue coupled with movement of the lips gives a more enjoyable feeling as opposed to violent movement of the tongue.

4. Not Reading Your Partner

Each individual possesses varying tastes. There are those who like soft and tender kisses and others those who like passionate ones. Listen to the reactions of your partner and react. When they are retrenching, admire that. If they are bending more in, then you can add intensity. Body language is very important in communication.

5. Bad Timing and Setting

It is hard to kiss a person when he /she is busy, stressed, or in the wrong place, which kills the mood. Both must be of mind and the conditions favorable to love.

Benefits of Kissing Your Partner: - 

Kissing is not just a mere expression of love. It has several additional benefits that make it necessary for a long-lasting romantic partnership. Here are some of its benefits:

1. Heighten Intimacy

Kisling forms a more emotional and physical bond between the partners. It is a non-verbal communication that shows love, passion, and devotion. Frequent kissing reinforces the relationship between the couple and makes them feel closer and appreciated.

2. Reduce Stress

As it was mentioned above, the research indicates that kissing makes cortisol (the stress hormone) levels lower and oxytocin (the bonding hormone) levels higher. When you are in a frenzy, a kiss can instantly cool your nerves and get you more relaxed and satisfied. This is a stress-reducing advantage that makes kissing a very good natural antidote to anxiety.

3. Boost Immune System

When you kiss your lover you share saliva and microorganisms. This may not sound appealing but on the contrary, this aids your immune system in identifying and combating the pathogens. The frequency of kissing one another may enhance your immunity and make you healthier.

4. Improve Mood and Happiness

Kissing also releases dopamine and serotonin the feel good chemicals in your brain. These neurotransmitters produce pleasures and happiness and euphoria. Once you have kissed someone, you will be much happier and more content.

5. Enhance Relationship Satisfaction.

Female and male couples with a high frequency of kissing record a higher relationship satisfaction and commitment. Kissing maintains the romance, does not allow relationships to get habitual and strengthens emotional ties.

Conclusion: -

Kissing better is one of the investments you can make in your love life. Also remember that kissing is a way of communicating and connecting not a show to master. True and sincere love of your partner, authenticity and presence are the most significant factors. You should not overthink every moment and better create the atmosphere where everyone can be responsive to the other partner and feel appreciated and valued.

Begin with the errors that people make and do them properly, attending to hygiene and timing and being truly present in the moment. Be open with your partner and discuss what you both like and do not be afraid to explore new things. The more you practice, the more you are patient and want to establish a connection with that person, the more you would naturally become a better kisser. Above all, keep in mind that the greatest kisses are possible when they are done out of pure love and attraction and not due to the strict set of rules. You must be very spontaneous, you must enjoy the intimacy and your kisses must be reflective of the special bond that you and your partner have.