How to Text the Girl You Have a Crush On

It's great that you have got the number or Instagram Id of your crush! Now comes the game of texting. If you want your crush to fall for you, you need to navigate the texting phase of courtship smartly. Don't worry! If you are one of those people who do not have much experience of talking to girls, this guide is for you. In this blog, we will provide some tips to have meaningful conversations with your crush. By following these tips, you can form a special bond with her that might turn into a romantic relationship.

1. Don't Rush

One of those most typical mistakes boys make on the texting stage is trying to hurry in order to enter a relationship. Well, this way, you have higher chances of driving her away than attracting her to you. Your desperativeness or over-eagerness will scare the other person and you will end up appearing very different, in a negative manner. Not relevant, rather concentrate on developing a real relationship with common conversation.

Learn about her interests, values as well as personality. Ask her about her day or her hobbies or what she thinks on the issues of your common interest. Be natural and do not need to force love and sex talk or insist on meeting up as soon as possible. Always keep in mind that friendship and understanding are the key issues of a good relationship. Taking your time, you demonstrate that you do care about her as a human being and not only about her as a romantic conquest.

2. Don't Fake Your Personality

The real thing is simply super-sexy. By faking that you are another person in the sole aim of impressing her, you are destined to fail. At some point, your true self will come out, and she is set to feel duped. What is more important, when she falls in love with the made-up image of you, then she does not fall in love with you at all.

Tell the truth about what you are interested in, even when it is something that you are afraid of being called rude or strange like her. Be sincere and share what you really think, but do not disrespect hers. Do not feign to be a fanatic sports person when you love video games. In case you are more of an introverted person, you should not attempt to appear like the jovial centre of attention. The correct individual will like you for what you really are. It will also make you more confident and natural during your conversation/s as it will make you feel more comfortable and authentic in it/them.

3. Listen to Understand Not For Replying

Active listening is one of the best assets in any relationship. When she tells you something do not count the time to speak to yourself but when it is your turn, or think of the smart thing that you can comment on; just be quiet and listen to her that she is the person speaking. Instead, listen carefully to her and will actually take an interest in her opinions and sentiments.

Follow-up the questions asked to prove that you were listening. When she says she had had a hard day at the office, do not immediately switch the topic but rather ask her what went on. In the case that she discusses something that she is enthusiastic about, show interest in it and ask her to elaborate about the same. This will demonstrate to her that you take what she believes in and goes through seriously, hence making her feel listened to and acknowledged. It is human nature to be attracted to people that make him/her feel understood and appreciated.

4. Be Funny

Humor works well in forming relationships, however, it requires utilization in the right way. When you have a sense of humor, it is easier to have pleasant conversations and remember them later. Nevertheless, humor should be avoided at any cost that is considered to be offensive or self-depreciating to an extent or at the expense of another person.

Tell jokes, talk about all the funny things you saw during the day or a funny story. Monitor her humor and fine-tune it. There are individuals who are fond of word jokes, others enjoy firing punches and some delight in playing games. Never be artificial when it comes to making jokes but never be reticent to express your sunnier side as well. You should not turn into a comedian, simply make her smile and enjoy communication with you.

5. Respect Her Boundaries

Boundaries are meant to be respected in any relationship, yet in the process of establishing a romantic relationship, it is even more important. Consider her answers and take her level of comfort. Do not send her loads of messages when she is not quick enough to reply to those messages. In case she appears to be uncomfortable about some subjects, divert the talk to other areas with patience.

Do not disrespect her time and do not think she has nothing to do except texting you. Do not wait to be immediately responded to and do not get angry when she fails to answer immediately. And watch proper timing too, do not send text messages late at night unless you are sure that she is comfortable with getting them in late hours. In case she tells you that she needs space or time in order to think about something, take it fully. Respecting the boundaries of people, in general, and her boundaries, in particular, is a sign of maturity and consideration, characteristics of a very appealing person to become a partner.

6. Come Across as Confident and Self-Assured Person

Confidence is beautiful, and being so, there is a razor thin fine line between being confident and arrogant. Being confident means being content with who you are and what you are, it does not mean you are sitting on other people or going on about how good you are. Share your achievements and good moments, but make such sharing in a manner that is not pretentious.

Do not always demand approval by text or constantly seek compliments. Rather do it by talking to them as a peer. Exercise judgment and voice them fairly. Do not be scared of disagreeing with her in minor things because healthy disagreements are in fact interesting to talk about. Do, however, not use stubbornness or argumentativeness regarding everything. Be decisive in making plans or suggestions and be flexible enough and mindful of her likes. A secure individual is not afraid to say that he was wrong and can make fun of her/ himself when it is necessary.

Conclusion

You do not need to be worried about texting your crush in case you do it in the right mood. Do keep in mind however that it is not a competition wherein you should strive to charm her by either being tricky or by manipulating her but rather by creating a healthy bond through shared interests and mutual respect. Be patient, be yourself, and concentrate on knowing her as a person. What has to be kept in mind most is that not every crush will result in a relationship, and that is absolutely all right. It does not always work the case that two people can work in harmony and it does not say anything about whether you are a good person or not. Be the best you will ever become and the perfect one will love you by who you are. When you take these pointers into consideration, you would not only stand a chance with your current crush but also learn how to be a better communicator and this skill will come in handy with every other relationship you have in the future. Good luck!