How To Express Your Feelings To A Girl You Love

Confiding in the girl you love can prove to be emotionally very disturbing. The fear of being rejected, the exposure of yourself as you put your heart down and the fear of how she is going to react, all these factors can make this one of the most panicky experiences of your life. Nevertheless, it is crucial to reveal your emotions in any possible love affair. Holding the feelings inside will deny you good chances and also frustrate you. Here, we are going to take you through some of the most effective methods to get to release your emotions via the most natural and yet respectful way that gives you the best possible chance of hitting pay dirt, and still maintain your dignity no matter how she does or does not react.

1. Do It Gradually

The major mistake which people make when confessing their feelings is that they jump right away from zero to hundred within a conversation. Just because you are in love with a person does not mean that he does not know that you like him or her romantically, especially when your emotional outburst catches him off guard. Rather, convey your emotions slowly and allow the emotional closeness to develop itself over the time spell.

It should start with greater curiosity towards her life, thoughts and experiences. Tell her more about yourself and discuss her dreams, values and views more deeply. Compliment her in sincerity not necessarily on her looks, but on her personality, intelligence and character. Observe the manner in which she reacts to such small steps of emotional intimacy. So, when she appears to be open and will start telling you more personal facts of her life, it will be a good indication that she feels good about the more serious relationship.

To start with, you may use such light phrases as "I enjoy being with you very much" or "You are important to me" and then proceed to more direct references to romantic interest. This step-by-step practice will give both of you enough time to settle down to this new dynamic in your relationship and allows her to evaluate her own sentiments without being put on the spot.

2. Propose When She is Chill and Distraction Free

The right time is the most important thing as far as expressing your feelings is concerned. Pick a time when she is not stressed with work or school or personal problems and preferably when she has the time to listen to you and give you her undivided attention. Do not start discussing your feelings at the time when her life is a stressful experience, before some important events, or when she is facing family issues or other important concerns.

Seek out such unfaked natural chances when you both feel good, and the conversation should move easily. This can be when you are walking together in a calm state, when you are both at home enjoying yourselves or when you are together on a relaxed chat. You should be in an area that is not crowded where she can get to express the real feelings without fear that her words will be heard by others or worse still will get interrupted.

Also make sure you aren t in a hurry and make sure that you or he has no other place he needs to be soon after making love. This discussion will need its time and space to progress in a flow and she must have the liberty to work out and act without getting hemmed in by time pressures.

3. Be Honest But Not Overwhelming

Be truthful but not excessive when you make up your mind to share your emotions. You desire to be sincere with your feelings in that you do not want to flood her with the depth of your emotions when she is not even on the same emotional level as you are. Share what you feel without sugarcoating or making some dramatic statements or pressurising her into saying something on the spot.

Spread I statements with how you feel and avoid assumptions of her feelings or the relationship. As an example, say, and not "We are suited to each other" or "I am sure that you feel the same" instead you say, "I have fallen in love with you." Such a strategy helps her focus on your feelings and gives you a chance to find her suitable environment and openly express her feelings.

Be ready to tell how interested you are in her. Tell how you were attracted to her, what you like about her character and how you feel about her. This indicates that it is not motivated by mere physical attraction or the efforts to overcome loneliness, but by actual appreciation of her as an individual.

4. Accept Her Response Gracefully

The next thing which is perhaps the most important in terms of sharing your feelings is that you need to be ready to accept her response, no matter what it might be. She may feel the same, she may need a time to think or she may be not interested romantically towards you. All these are acceptable answers and the manner you respond to her answer will go a long way to describe your nature and mature behavior.

In the event that she feels the same way you do, tell her and remind her not to go overboard by being hyper excited. Talk about what it all means in your relationship going forward and go at an appropriate pace that does not make both of you feel uncomfortable.

Respect the fact that, if she has to process it, take your time. Instead of pressing her on a given date or checking with her whether she has made the decision or not, give her time and wait. Allow her the space that she requires without necessarily stopping to treat her differently compared to how you would when she is alright.

When she says no on any issue regarding your love, support her statement with grace and dignity. Appreciate that she is honest, tell her that you understand her feelings and provided that it is feasible, say that you would like to keep her as a friend in case she would like that too. Do not argue with her choice, attempt to make her confused or call her in order to feel guilty of not responding to your feelings.

Final Thought: - 

Telling somebody you love about your feelings is not an easy task which needs the courage of a lion, good timing, and emotional maturity. Keep in mind that the aim is not always to obtain the answer, which you desire, but to tell the truth about the feelings you have and give each of you a chance to be honest with the feelings you have. At least you can be glad she knows you were courageous enough to be exposed and open.

Above all other things, you have to remember that her reaction does not determine your value as a human being. When someone rejects you, this fact has nothing to do with your worth where it means that the specific mode of romantic relationship was not a good fit. You will not be alone forever, there is somebody who will like you and accept your affection, and being honest and respectful at what you are doing, you develop the emotional skills that will help you in all your future relationships.