Navigating Boundaries in a “Talking Stage”

Are you stuck between what should I begin and about what I should discuss?
The talking stage can be daunting for everyone who is keen towards getting to know someone. For some this phase is nice and bubbly while for some it’s confusing and boring. But before you actually start dating, it is necessary to know what they actually mean or is it enjoyable. However,the talking stage is different for each one. Some people love it while others totally hate it. Since it is frustrating and all it depends on you,how you view dating and your connection with whoever it is talking to. 

What is the Talking Stage?

So, here we go about what the talking stage is all about?
Well, the taking stage is the initial stage for someone  to know better before dating or getting involved, so that your heart will not have to be shattered. Since many of us have gone through this stage and eventually we got our hearts broken too. So, it is necessary to navigate before the beginning of something.

The Role of Perception

Perception plays a crucial role after the talking stage. Even if one plays sets a clear goal then the other misinterprets actions of a romantic interest. It is vital to communicate openly about the intentions and feelings to prevent misunderstanding. 

Expectations about Talking Stage 

1. Maintain a Healthy Boundary

Maybe the timing isn't right for your relationship to begin and that is totally fine. You also need it. It is crucial to draw these boundaries so that a healthy relationship between the two should be maintained. 

2. Match their level of interest 

If the person you approach isn’t reciprocating then it is important for you to match the levels of interest. If not then it will be shown as a clingy and it will only feel like a torture for both of the individuals. 

3. Live in the Present, Don’t think about the Future

Yes, it is very crucial to only focus on the present, not the future now. Because the talking stage is just the beginning. So, you don’t have to think about your wedding now. Just focus on the present and make it to the fullest with your partner. 

4. Be clear about the Communication 

Talk about what you feel, Open up about your likes and dislikes. Moreover, don’t stress out on the things at this stage which you don’t know. Try your best to get to know each other. Figure out  about the things that either you like or not. 

Some of the Signs that your talking stage is going well:

1. Mutual Goals and Mutual Vibes 

Well, the main thing is that if both the individuals have the same opinions and mutual vibes then you are just giving your best and your relationship is more likely to move forward in a positive way.

2. Craving Communication

Communication is vital and it keeps the spark alive and offers a continuous insight into your compatibility. If you found yourself in the extra wee hours getting a text or texting to that someone special then it is perfectly moving forward.

3. More than just a Chit-Chat

Well, if you have found someone who is more than just a chit-chat then you have perfectly found the soulmate that you desire. Moreover, most daters found it more successful if they have moved forward from the chit-chat stage. 

4. Transitioning from the talking stage

Since the two of you met and started talking and discussing several aspects of Life, You feel happy and you want to move forward making it official. So, this is the transition stage where the talking stage has become successful and you both are ready to move forward by taking into the next level of relationship. 

5. The stage of DTR

You’ve been texting and chit chatting about several things till now. So, now is the time of DTR which simply means define your relationship stage. 

The Bottom Line  

By navigating dating in the current day is not easy. But do remember that the talking stage takes at least two people. This simply means that you have much to say in how this time period plays out. Moreover, if you find yourself composing and sharing long-form texts with someone which is not going in the desired direction then it is necessary to speak up. As just by getting stuck in a very negative pattern can follow you around like a curse and a curse won’t be able to shake things up till you make your expectations very precise and clear. Moreover, no one can do that except you and maybe with your spoken words and not by the text.